So like the Skin Horse says to the little Rabbit, "real isn't something you are, it's something you become." We become Real through experiencing the full range of ourselves reflected in others, and recognizing it is but a reflection of our own state. With practice we can accept what we see and love ourselves anyway. Only then can we truly be open to loving and accepting someone else. All the wear and tear is the sometimes agonizing beauty of this human condition. And just imagine how wonderful it would be if we could all let our threads show, knowing that this is what makes each of us so very Real.Read More
Most of us have heard this famous quote at some point in our lives:
The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
(Of course it is commonly attributed to Anais Nin, however now a woman named Elizabeth Appell is claiming that she wrote the quote in 1979. We won't go into that, but just in case you're interested…)
Anyhow, back to the quote. If you've managed to somehow miss it among its printing on tshirts, journals, bookmarks, bumper stickers, Pinterest images, and the plethora of other places I'm sure it's been, then I bet you're pretty excited to see it right now. Why you ask? Because it absolutely touches on an integral and deep truth that at some point we must all come to know insides of ourselves. Vulnerability (and growth) are necessary.
How can we can ever expect to give or receive anything of real value if we do not open ourselves up? This doesn't just mean opening up to a safe person, which of course is nice. Truly opening up means going into a state of "allowing" for as many hours and minutes of the day as we can possibly tolerate it, because it is necessary for own growth.
Let me illustrate using myself as an example.Read More