This time of year can be difficult for many people for a variety of reasons. I have often felt a sense of disappointment and general melancholy around the holidays because my expectations about what they should be like have always fallen short of reality. Much of this began around childhood when the magic of the holidays faded into the recognition of complicated family dynamics and obligations that many times had strong undercurrents of resentment, anger, or rejection that as a child are blissfully out of awareness until the age of about 10-12.
Other people feel that the holidays invokes feelings of loneliness or loss, while others have maintained fond and positive memories of the season. I've as I've grown up it has become increasingly more important to give myself what I need. Of course one can take this literally to mean buying myself the presents or gifts I wanted (I still haven't given myself those flexi-blocks I did to get that year I was 10, but I will....I will.), but there is a deeper element to self-nurturance.Read More