"No" is a dirty word. People hate to hear the word no and even more than hating to hear it many people hate to say it. Many of us believe that if we tell people no they will cease liking or respecting us. However, that fear is not totally unfounded. Many people become personally offended when, after a request is made (no matter how seemingly ridiculous) they are told no.
Last night on our walk Aaron said people only like other people because they are doing what they want them to do. I resisted this at first because it sounded unnecessarily cynical but on second thought, I think she's right on a fundamental level. I think what she's really speaking to is the fact that when we enter into relationships with others (on whatever level that relationship is forged) we are really entering into a contract of roles.Read More