Defense mechanisms are a necessary part of living in the human experience. Without an ego, and if we didn't have to deal with other people's egos (and all of the variations in health and coping strategies) we wouldn't need defense mechanisms.
These strategies or coping techniques allow a person to retain a level of ego coherence so that they aren't completely shattered when something happens that is ego-dystonic (or uncomfortable). Our defense mechanisms can be mature, neurotic or immature. Conversely, we can have a set of mature/healthy defense strategies and a few that are more neurotic (or vice versa). Read More
Dreams are tricky. They can run the gamut from the funny and slightly bizarre to the terrifying and bone chilling. People that have an active dream life have always fascinated me. I dream of course, but they are so incredibly mundane they aren't even worth journaling most of the time.
I literally have dreams about folding laundry and cleaning the grout in my bathroom (for real, I cleaned the grout in my sleep two nights ago). I do have the occasional wacky dream (like the time I dreamt that I was 90s teen actor Scott Wolf's agent and I was trying to get him cast in an off-Broadway production of MacBeth) and the standard archetypal subconscious dreams (forgetting to go to a class all semester, walking through a creepy haunted house while being chased by some un-named specter, etc.). I have had a few psychic dreams, (those were fun) and a handful of really meaningful spiritually significant dreams that still stay with me today.
There are different categories or types of dreams so I thought it would be fun and useful to write about a few of the most common.
To understand our soul's desire it might be helpful first to understand our ego desire. The best way to do this is to understand how to categorize the ego. We like the Enneagram personality system because it is a useful tool for categorizing human behavior.
Some critics of personality models say things like "the Enneagram just puts people into boxes, and creates division". You may be one of those people so just bear with me.
Indeed the Enneagram is categorical, however, in our opinion, the tendency to name things is an inherently human tendency and has a practical usefulness in understanding the world, when not used dogmatically and inflexibly. Read More