So like the Skin Horse says to the little Rabbit, "real isn't something you are, it's something you become." We become Real through experiencing the full range of ourselves reflected in others, and recognizing it is but a reflection of our own state. With practice we can accept what we see and love ourselves anyway. Only then can we truly be open to loving and accepting someone else. All the wear and tear is the sometimes agonizing beauty of this human condition. And just imagine how wonderful it would be if we could all let our threads show, knowing that this is what makes each of us so very Real.Read More
Ego storms are similar to atmospheric storms in that they are the manifestation of agitated emotional energy in the body. Depending on our personalities these storms can take the form of anxiety, despair, anger, blaming, addictive patterns, isolation, etc, but whatever the content of the storm it's sure to cause some upheaval in your life.Read More
Power is a very hot commodity. With power we can do anything from run a country to break cement blocks. The emotions that underlie power can be varied. Sometimes power (which is an energetic force) is fueled by confidence and purpose, but quite often it is fueled by anger, revenge and resentment.
More often than not power is conferred upon someone by other people who officially or subconsciously project power onto someone. Being powerful typically involves a lot of responsibility and some may avoid or even run away from power in the world some avoid identifying themselves as powerful due to a desire to remain small to avoid punishment or blame or to feed a sense of self which sees itself as weak and disenfranchised.Read More
Angry, peeved, irritable, annoyed, pissed off, ensconced, fuming, enraged, insulted. No matter how you refer to it it's an emotion that we all have to varying degrees. Some people own their anger, some wear it like a badge, some stuff it in places it doesn't belong, others throw it at people who don't deserve it.
Anger has gotten a bad wrap and I can understand why. Anger has toppled cities and decimated countries. But anger itself isn't the problem. It's identification with it that can be harmful. When we become angry we can sometimes allow the energy of it to run us instead of the other way around.Read More
I love it when I start blaming someone for something because it's a good indication I've stopped taking care of myself, and I need to take a breath and figure out how I've given away my power. Taking responsibility for ourselves seems like a simple concept in theory, but to actually practice it is a whole other story. We love to blame people, life, situations, God and anything we can get our minds around for well...everything. The ongoing practice of taking responsibility for ourselves and our feelings, thoughts, and actions is really an act of meditation.
It is a very human tendency to immediately look for justification for why we behaved, thought or felt a certain way. Sometimes the excuses are related to the event at hand, for example: "I yelled at my kid because he was annoying me" or "I cheated on my partner because they were ignoring me".Read More
I am a self-proclaimed rain hater....okay, let me back up. I hate it when it is overcast and rains for days on end. I don't know how Seattleites do it! I have diagnosed myself with SAD (seasonal affective disorder). I think I could actually have the condition because when it rains for more than a day I start to feel a little shlumpy (yes, it's a word).Read More