I teach a couple of college courses, which have been my delight and pleasure over the past couple of years: Men and Masculinity and Queer Theory. Without getting all academic, I'll say they both challenge students (and myself) to rethink what it means to be masculine, feminine, gay, straight, bi, lesbian, male, female and transgendered.
I feel like I've done my job if students walk away with a less static conception of gender and sexuality, which happens more often than not, and while sometimes cognitively upsetting to some students in the beginning ends up being infinitely freeing.
However, most people I encounter on a daily basis (dare I say more men than women) are stuck in rigid gender and sexuality roles that limit the expression of the full range of their energy, not because they choose to be stuck that way, but because culture dictates what is acceptable and what is not. Read More
Karma as a concept has earned an interesting place in the Western milieu Interestingly enough every time I hear someone mention karma they are usually pissed off and hoping somebody "gets what they deserve" or singing that Boy George song, (which incidentally makes no sense to me on any level). And while an aspect of karma involves people "getting what they deserve" it goes much deeper than that.
Karma's original meaning has been largely lost in the West leaving a poor remnant of its true implications. It is a complex topic and one that goes far beyond the scope of this post. However, I'm going to do my best to address some misconceptions about karma. Read More
I wanted to write about self esteem because I think we often only look at it from one angle. However, I find that for myself that self esteem issues tend to be isolated in certain spheres or areas of our lives.
So while I may think I'm the "ish" at cooking eggs benedict or understanding people's motivations, I may feel like a complete loser when it comes to expressing my emotions or showing vulnerability (a very big problem for many men).
I like to look at things from a holistic point of view. So I thought, why not address self esteem in the same way. I hope others can find this holistic approach to self esteem issues as helpful as it was for me to write this post. Read More
I think most people, unless you live under a rock (which is totally cool, but my question is twofold: a.) how do you breathe under there and b.) isn't it cramped?), have heard of chakras.
Chakras are very simply energy vortices inside and around the human energy system that help us transmute incoming information about the world. Many cultures have identified these vortices and worked with the wisdom of the body this way for centuries. They are slowly becoming more popularized in the Western world as we get hip to the wisdom of ancient traditions.
Understanding how each chakra can be a doorway into health and healing and deepening our personal conception of spirituality is a great shorthand way to ensure we are caring for our whole selves. Read More